"Participation"is the head noun in the phrase "Growing Participation" and "Growing" is a modifier. We didn't choose this particular phrase as the name for our approach because it had a catchy ring to it. Both "participation" and "growing" are packed with meaning, and the meanings are not the ones that might come to mind for an ordinary everyday reader encountering the phrase for the first time.
1)
Participation
It may surprise you when I say that you never act as a
lone individual. No matter what you do, you do it as a participant in your people group. (My own "people group" is AngloCanadian.) “But,” someone replies, “How
about when I’m asleep. Surely sleeping is an individual activity.” No! Your action of sleeping is also an action
of participation in your people group!
You see, you follow certain practices
in sleeping—the practices of your people group. Those practices include where members of your people group
sleep, on what they sleep, times for sleeping, sleeping attire, the conditions under which it is
impolite to wake someone and much more. What is true of sleeping is true of all
that people do. In other words, to be
alive and to be human is to be participating in a people group! (We use the
term practices, in the common
everyday sense of, “repeated ways of acting”. That includes repeated ways of
speaking and of understanding speech.)
As you participate in your people group, you always use
various means of participation. There are those you think of as physical
means for doing things (like hammers and cars). In the case of sleeping, these
include (in the world of my people group) beds and beddings and pajamas.
Alongside obvious physical objects such as pillows and pillow cases, the most
powerful means of participation are the words that the group members understand
and speak with one another.
Words are part of our means of sleeping! What I mean is that having
words and groups of words radically influences (some say “transforms”) the
experience of sleeping in different people groups. Words as means of carrying
out the practice of sleeping might include the words bed and pajamas,
but also utterances such as Honey, I’m exhausted (which I heard a wife say recently as a way of getting her husband to
discontinue a conversation and move toward sleeping for the night),
or Honey, have you seen my pyjamas? which might be a hint that it is
time for bed or just a practical tool for solving a problem standing in the way
of my sleep: I seem to lack one of my essential means for sleeping and resort
to words as means and other people as means for solving the problem. Can you
see how “words as means for living” alter the very nature of what it is to
live? The uniqueness of humans in creation has a lot to do with the richness of
our participatory nature!
To live is to be participating in a people group.
24/7! (Some readers ask why we say “participator” and not “participant”.
Well, we think participator sounds
more active and willful than participant!)
Once you are into your life, abroad you will continue to live much of it as
ongoing participation in your home-world people group’s practices (the
group you grew up in) whenever you are not with members of your host-world
group participating in their life with them, following their practices. Often
the balance between our home-world participation and our host-world
participation needs to be shifted if we are to grow. We hope you are getting at
least an inkling of why the “participation” we have in mind when we say
“growing participation” is at the core of the challenge we face in
another people group. It’s about being truly alive with people in their world.
2)
Growing
To participate is to become better at participating.
People’s home-world life is always present under their skin, even in those
times when they are focused on living their host-world life. However, there is
a transformation going on inside
them—a slow conformity (in a good sense) to the ways of people on the outside.
Over time, as a result of the help of host people, not only do those people
find the foreigners more and more like themselves on the outside, but the
growing participators find themselves more and more like the host people on the
inside (especially when focused on participating in their life with them). To
participate is to grow. To grow is to take on host practices, especially
following those practices in relationships with host people. Growing speaks of
time. Over time 1) the number of host relationships grows from one main
“nurturer” to many true friends; 2) the range of host practices that the newcomers
follow grows (breadth); while 3) the way they carry out those processes becomes
more “host-like” (depth). Their growth into host practices is never total.
There will always be some practices we have not yet taken on, and others that we
have taken on, but with a “strong foreign accent” (“foreign accents” exist on
many levels besides pronunciation). The host practices they take on centrally
include those that involve understanding
speech and talking. (Remember the
mention of words as means of participation.) There is also
an ongoing transformation in how the newcomers understand the speech of host
people, and in how they talk to and with host people. Thus when the newcomers
first hear one of the host words and “understand” that word, they are usually
understanding it in their home-world terms. That is, they may take a host-world
word to mean the same as their home-world word for “woman”. Only with much
participation (hearing many conversations, stories, speeches, watching other
actions and reactions, etc.) will their understanding of that host-world word
concept adapt and become host-like, so that when host people say the word, the
newcomers understand them in line with their host concept of women and
womanhood. As growing speaks of time, we teach six phases of growing in/through/with/ and by
participation:
Growing
Participation in Six Phases:
1.
Connecting
(to a whole new world primarily through one of its members)
2.
Emerging
(-- becoming “somebody” to a few people in the new world)
3.
Knowable
(as someone with whom host people have the possibility of friendship)
4.
Deep
personal relationships (with a few, making possible
deeper relationships with many)
5.
Widening
understanding (thus being seen more and more as “like us” by
host people.)
6.
Ever
participating/growing (such that to live is to participate is to
grow.)
For each Phase we suggest special activities of “special-growth participation” which can
profitably occupy growing participators for hundreds of hours of concentrated
participating and special growing.